Let’s be honest. High-achievers don’t shut it off easily.
You’ve led your team, made decisions, answered texts, put out fires, and maybe even crushed a few goals today. But when your head hits the pillow, your mind starts sprinting again & looping through to-dos, replaying conversations, stressing over tomorrow.
It’s not sustainable. And it’s not necessary.
If you want to win tomorrow you need to have energy, focus, health & you have to lead yourself tonight.
Why Night Matters More Than You Think
Your subconscious doesn’t sleep. It replays your mental playlist from the day, reinforcing what you focus on before bed. So the late-night anxiety spiral? It’s not just stealing your rest but it’s scripting your stress for the next day.
But what if your pillow talk trained your brain for progress?
Here’s a 3-step nightly routine designed specifically for leaders, creatives, and high-capacity people. It’s not about adding fluff. It’s about reclaiming your mind — and your sleep — so you can lead with clarity and strength.
I call these The 3Gs.
1. Gratitude: Start With the Good
Gratitude is grounding.
Even on chaotic days, there’s always something to be thankful for: a breakthrough moment, a small gesture, a conversation that mattered. Naming just one thing each night starts a positive feedback loop in your brain.
Why it works: Gratitude decreases cortisol and increases serotonin which helps you shift from reactivity to rest.
When you train your brain to look for things to be grateful for, you’ll find them. And you’ll find more… and more. And that gratitude will elevate your mood in the moment and your attitude the next day.
Simple prompt:
“Thank you, thank you, thank you for…”
Feel the gratitude in your body. Then move on to Gains.
2. Gains: Focus on Progress, Not the Gap
Dan Sullivan calls it “The Gap and the Gain.” The Gap is where we wish we were. The Gain is how far we’ve come.
Most high-achievers live in the Gap — always chasing, never satisfied. But celebrating Gains builds momentum, fuels confidence, and protects your mental energy.
So ask yourself:
“Where did I make progress today?”
Even if it’s small — a conversation, a step, a mindset shift — name it. Celebrate it. It counts. And paying attention to the progress builds proof, confidence, and momentum for tomorrow.
3. Get-To’s: Reframe Tomorrow’s Challenges
Instead of dreading what’s next, retrain your brain to see opportunity.
Replace “I have to…” with “I get to…”
“I get to coach my team.”
“I get to step into that tough conversation.”
“I get to learn through this challenge.”
This simple switch rewires your perspective and helps you wake up with purpose, not pressure. It’s better this way.
Your Subconscious Is Always Listening
These three nightly habits — The 3Gs: Gratitude, Gains, and Get-To’s — send the right signals to your subconscious mind.
- They shift your internal narrative from fear to fulfillment.
- From scarcity to sufficiency.
- From chaos to clarity.
Over time, they don’t just change your nights — they transform your days.
Try This Tonight:
Before bed, grab a journal or speak it aloud:
- One thing I’m grateful for…
- One win from today…
- One thing I have to do tomorrow…
Do this consistently, and watch how your mind, mood, and momentum start to shift — while you sleep.
Ready to lead your team (and yourself) with more clarity, intentionality, and purpose?
