The most underrated leadership practice doesn’t happen in the boardroom. It doesn’t show up on meeting agendas, and it isn’t measured on scorecards.
It happens at night, when you close your eyes.
Because the way you end your day shapes the way you begin the next. Neuroscience shows that the final thoughts we hold before sleep continue to ripple through our subconscious mind. Leaders who finish their day with worry or frustration often wake up carrying the same weight. Leaders who end with clarity, gratitude, and intention wake up lighter, clearer, and more prepared to lead.
That’s why I teach a nightly reflection I call The 3Gs. It’s a simple, three-minute routine that has the power to shift not just your mindset, attitude, and outlook, but your entire presence as a leader.
The 3Gs stand for Gratitude, Gains, and Get-To’s.
1. Gratitude: “What am I grateful for today?”
Conscious leaders know that gratitude isn’t fluff—it’s fuel.
Research out of Harvard and UC Berkeley shows that gratitude boosts serotonin and dopamine, lowers cortisol (the stress hormone), and even improves immune function. In practical terms, leaders who express gratitude sleep better, think clearer, and perform with more resilience.
So, each night before bed, ask yourself: What am I grateful for today?
It could be something big—a new client signed, a deal closed, a breakthrough conversation. Or it might be something small but meaningful—your child’s laughter at dinner, the quiet satisfaction of finishing a workout, or a word of encouragement from a colleague.
When you consistently end your day by scanning for gratitude, your brain becomes wired to notice what’s working instead of just what’s broken. Over time, this rewiring makes you a leader who naturally projects positivity, attracts trust, and inspires.
Pro tip: Express your gratitude out loud or write them down in a journal. Speaking or writing makes them more tangible, anchoring the feeling and imprinting it deeper into your subconscious.
2. Gains: “Where did I make progress today?”
Most leaders fall asleep replaying what didn’t get done: the emails left unanswered, the strategy that’s still unfinished, the meeting that didn’t go well. That mental loop of “not enough” is exhausting—and demoralizing over time.
Conscious leaders flip the script. They end the day by noticing progress, not just problems.
Ask yourself: Where did I make gains today?
Maybe you finally delegated something you’ve been holding onto. Maybe you handled a tough conversation with more patience. Maybe you took one small step toward a big goal or quarterly “rock.”
This practice builds momentum. The brain loves progress—it releases dopamine whenever you notice that you’re moving forward. When you reinforce progress daily, you build confidence and motivation, even if you’re still far from the finish line.
A leader who sees gains is a leader who sleeps encouraged instead of discouraged. And encouragement is contagious—your team will feel it the next day in the way you show up.
Pro tip: Share your gains with a spouse, partner, or accountability partner. Speaking them out loud magnifies the sense of progress and creates a ripple of positivity in your relationships.
3. Get-To’s: “What do I have to do tomorrow?”
Tomorrow begins tonight.
Most leaders dread certain parts of their calendar: a performance review, a board presentation, an early flight, another day of back-to-back Zoom calls. The language we use—I have to do this—creates stress and resistance before the day even begins.
Conscious leaders practice the art of reframing.
Instead of asking, What do I have to do tomorrow? ask, What do I get to do tomorrow?
The shift is subtle but powerful. I get to lead my team through a big presentation. I get to coach a struggling employee who needs support. I get to invest in my child’s growth by driving them to practice.
Gratitude turns obligations into opportunities. This doesn’t mean pretending everything is easy. It means recognizing that responsibility is a privilege—that the very things you once hoped for (a big role, a busy business, a thriving family) are now the things you “get to” steward.
Leaders who end the night with Get-To’s wake up with anticipation instead of dread. They enter the day looking for opportunity instead of avoiding obligation. And that shift in posture changes everything—your energy, your tone, even your decision-making.
Pro tip: Visualize yourself tomorrow. Picture walking into that meeting with calm confidence, or greeting your team with energy. This mental rehearsal primes your nervous system for success.
Why This Works
The 3 Gs work because they’re simple, repeatable, and aligned with how the brain actually functions.
- Gratitude rewires your attention toward the positive.
- Gains reinforce progress and build confidence.
- Get-To’s transform pressure into purpose.
And because you practice them nightly, they compound. Over weeks and months, you’ll notice less stress, better rest, and a more resilient mindset. You’ll wake up lighter. You’ll show up clearer. And your team will experience a leader who leads with steadiness, not stress.
Final Thought
Leadership isn’t just about what you do during the day. It’s also about how you close the day.
The last three minutes before sleep can become the most powerful leadership practice in your routine. By ending your day with Gratitude, Gains, and Get-To’s, you program your subconscious to rest well and rise strong.
Try it tonight. Write down one thing you’re grateful for, one gain you made, and one get-to you’re anticipating tomorrow.
Do it again tomorrow night. And the next.
You may be surprised how quickly your evenings become lighter, your mornings more energized, and your leadership more conscious.
After all, conscious leaders don’t just manage their teams. They manage themselves.
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